Do you ever feel like you reach for the stars and never seem to get the results you want? You aim high and hope for the best, but reaching goals never seems to happen, and you’re not sure what you’re doing wrong.
Ask yourself this – what are my long term goals? Jot down everything that comes to mind and later put numbers to them based on priority. It’s okay if your dream car comes before your dream house, because you’ve probably gotten too used to living in your rented 1 or 2 BHK to bother saving up for actual ownership.
If you’re struggling to realise your dreams, let these 10 point you in the right direction. Here’s how to set goals and achieve them.
1.Choose Goals That Inspire You
Set goals that are personal to you and will inspire you to reach new heights. Don’t follow the crowd and mimic the ambitions of friends, pursue something you’re passionate about, something that genuinely interests you. This helps create a sense of purpose that will motivate you to stop thinking and start doing.
Life goals are the ones you dream about happening ‘one day’ but never today. This approach has to change if you want make things happen. You need to stop scrolling through social media, wishing you had that job, that lifestyle, that social life and instead, get out there and be proactive.
3.No More Negativity
American writer Earl Nightingale once said “our attitude towards life determines life’s attitude towards us” and it’s true. Project negativity to the world and it will come right back at you. Tell yourself ‘you can’t do this and you can’t do that’ and you won’t be able to do it. As cliche as it sounds, having a ‘can do attitude,’ even if you’re faking it, can really help you realise your goals. Whenever doubt starts to creep into your mind, swat it away and be a glass half full kind of person.
It’s easy to get obsessed with goal setting. You’re hooked and will do anything to get where you want to be. However, this carries the risk of burnout. Be realistic with your aims from the very beginning. Having drive is good, but remember that you’re also human and need rest and recuperation like everybody else.
Create a timetable and set aside enough time each day or week to work on your goal. For instance, if you want to enter a 10k race, your first step should be drawing up a training plan one which ticks off the right amount of training without the risk of exhaustion.
5.Break It Down
Setting goals and achieving them is hard. There are no shortcuts or easy routes, but that’s what makes the experience so rewarding.
If you start to feel overwhelmed, break everything down. Not just in terms of time but action points too. Specifically outlining what you want to achieve, when and by what means will make your goals feel much more attainable.
Goal setting rarely runs smoothly. You will hit stumbling blocks that make you question why you attempted in the first place, but that’s part of it, and the sooner you accept that the better. Rather than letting failure bring you down, acknowledge that it’s happened and learn from it. Take note of what worked well, what didn’t and move on. It’ll make you a stronger goal setter.
The first rule of goal setting is, talk about goal setting. Tell everyone who’ll listen what your plans are and how you intend to bring them to fruition. The added pressure will motivate you to act upon your words. What’s more, it also provides networking opportunities. Nurturing long term business goals? The more people you speak to, the better chance you’ll have of meeting individuals you can collaborate with and surpass your targets.
Don’t struggle alone. Sometimes there’s only so far you can take a project before you need a new perspective. This can be anything maybe you’re training for a half marathon and no matter how hard you try, you can’t get your Personal Best (PB) under that enviable 2 hour mark. At this point, you could perhaps call on the advice of a friend.
9.Track Your Progress
A huge incentive to make the finish line can be seeing how far you’ve come already. If your weight loss success has suddenly hit a standstill and you’re tempted to fall back into old (bad) habits, remind yourself of how well you’ve done up to this point.
Throughout your goal setting journey take pictures, keep a diary, even vlog your experience. Keeping track of good weeks and bad weeks also helps you to address your weaknesses and how to overcome them.
10.Visualise The End Result
Losing sight of the end result will encourage you to veer off course. One of the best ways to stay motivated is by visualizing the change you want to see. Make this image clear in your mind – the ‘you’ in X amount of weeks time – so when the odd setback does happen, you won’t be fazed and will come back stronger than ever.
And when you do hit your target, treat yourself; you deserve it.