Positive things in a relationship that we mistake as negative
The very nature of mankind forces us to detect faults in everything. Literally everything. Even if our partner has good intentions, we tend to ruin the situation by finding faults and negative causes in a good situation.
If left unchecked, this could seriously upset the equilibrium in the partnership.
Everyone has insecurities, agreed. But if we let them take over our instincts, then our relationships are done for good. Even identifying our mistakes altogether has become a huge problem! So, we bring to you a list of positive things that we often mistake as negative ones in a relationship.
Be honest
Don’t mistake this for hurtful honesty. If you’re wondering that speaking out the truth at all times can hurt your partner, then it’s probably for the good. First of all, your relationship should have a strong footing that even if you are being blunt and honest with each other’s faults, you’re only doing it for the betterment of the relationship.
In a discussion, diplomacy is the best approach .Your partner could be too sensitive to hear an honest view, but you shouldn’t be afraid to voice it.
Not messaging instantly
Read recipients and advanced text messaging tools have corrupted our privacy completely. Even if you are in a relationship, you deserve to have your lone and me-time.
Your spouse should know that if you aren’t responding right away, something must be going on in your life or you just need some time to yourself. In a relationship, love and trust shouldn’t be determined by an instantaneous reaction
You’re your own life
Get this straight
A spouse is someone you want, not someone you need.
The only person you need is yourself
You can’t continue to rely on the other person to make you happy and solve your problems, therefore co-dependency should be avoided in partnerships.
It’s important to build your own life, instead of making them your life.
Keep things to yourself
It’s alright to keep certain things to yourself. There may be things your partner does that irritate you, but you don’t need to bring it up at all times
It’s true that you should let your spouse know how you’re feeling, but that doesn’t imply you shouldn’t have any emotions at all.
You shouldn’t bottle up your emotions, correct. But start dealing with situations yourself.Don’t probe further if it’s something little.
Going to bed being mad about something Talking about the end of the day before going to bed is overdone.
If you draw out discussions at night when both of you are tired and exhausted, there’s no use. Ending discussion just for the sake of ending it before going to bed can have severe implications later. It’s more healthy and advisable to wake up the next morning, say what you want to say, in a quick manner, kiss, make-up and get on with your daily lives. Unnecessarily extending the fight or argument is outright foolish if you want your relationship to be a justified ones
Loving yourself more
You come first, always remember that. There’s no greater love than self-love. If you put yourself first in a relationship, it’s perfectly alright. There’s nothing to feel guilty about. Your partner may feel that you aren’t prioritising them first. That’s bound to happen too. But the best solution, in this case, is to make them understand that loving oneself first will not only improve the relationship but our overall mental health too. It also sets precedence on how others should treat you, rather than waiting to be validated by someone else
Congratulations !
