You can make your life happier. It is a matter of choice.
You might say it is impossible, since you have so many problems, and therefore, you just cannot be happy.
You are wrong. You can be happy even in difficult times and when surrounded by problems. Happiness comes from within, and does not depend on circumstances.
Events and circumstances can surely affect how you feel. If you let them. The secret is in not letting them affect your mood and state of mind. This might be not easy, but if you are determined to bring happiness into your life you can do it.
It is your attitude that makes you feel happy or unhappy.
It is your habitual thinking that determines whether you are happy or unhappy.
It depends on how much you let events affect how you feel.
It depends on how much you allow people’s words and actions affect you.
It depends on how you much inner peace you can produce.
We meet all kinds situations every day, and some of them may not contribute to happiness. However, we can choose to keep thinking about the unhappy events, and we can choose to refuse to think about them, and instead, think about and relish the happy moments.
All of us go through difficult or unpleasant situations and circumstances, but we do not have to let them influence our reactions and feelings.
If we let outer events influence our moods, we become their slaves. We lose our freedom. We let our happiness be determined by outer forces.
On the other hand, we can free ourselves from outer influences. We can choose to be happy, and we can add a lot to add happiness to our life.
What Is Happiness?
It is a feeling of inner peace and satisfaction. It is usually experienced, when there are no worries, fears or obsessing thoughts. This usually happens, when we do something we love to do, or when we get, win, gain, or achieve something that we value.
It seems to be the outcome of positive events, but it actually comes from the inside, though often, triggered by external events.
For most people, happiness seems fleeting and temporary, because they allow external circumstances to affect it. One of the best ways to keep it, is by gaining inner peace through daily meditation. As the mind becomes more peaceful, it becomes easier to choose the happiness habit.
Tips for Happiness in Daily Life
I would like to suggest a few tips to help you allow more happiness fill your life. These are simple tips you can easily follow. You don’t have to follow all of them at once. Take a few, implement them into your life, and then follow some more. You don’t need to follow them in the same order you find below. You can start with the ones that you like more.
1) Change the way you look at life
Strive to change the way you look at life. Try to be more positive and optimistic and look at the bright side of life.
Your mind might drag you to think about negativity and difficulties. Don’t let it. Every time you catch yourself trapped in negative thinking, stop, and look at the good and positive side of every situation.
2) Look for solutions
Think about solutions, not about problems. It is so easy to be caught on thinking on the problems and closing your mind, so you cannot see a solution.
You should avoid this situation. You should focus on finding solutions. If you adopt this habit of thinking you will find a solution and a way out.
3) Listen to relaxing or uplifting music
Music has an uplifting effect on the mind, emotions and body, and can increase the sense of happiness.
4) Watch funny comedies that make you laugh
Comedies and sitcoms can make you forget your problems and uplift your feelings.
I don’t suggest that you sit and watch TV or movies all day. This is not a good idea. The goal is not to escape, but to uplift your spirit. A small dose once in a while can you do good.
Each day, devote some time to reading a few pages of an inspiring book or article. This will not only add to your knowledge, but also help you see life from a broader viewpoint.
6) Watch your thoughts
Pay attention to your thoughts. What kind of thoughts do you think? If they are depressing, negative and unhappy thoughts, do your best to move your mind to other happier matters.
Whenever you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, start thinking of pleasant things. Your mind would probably resist your efforts, but you have to keep focusing on good and happy thoughts.
7) Always look at what you have done and not at what you haven’t.
Sometimes, you begin the day with the desire to accomplish several objectives. At the end of the day, you might feel frustrated and unhappy, because you haven’t been able to do all of those things.
Often, plans take more time than expected. There is no need to be angry or unhappy about this. Looking at what you have already accomplished would make you feel better.
Look at what you have done, not at what you have not been able to do. Often, even if you have accomplished a lot during the day, you let yourself feel frustrated, because of some minor tasks you didn’t accomplish.
Sometimes, you spend all day successfully carrying out many plans, but instead of feeling happy and satisfied, you look at what was not accomplished and feel unhappy. You should avoid doing this.
8) Each day do something good for yourself.
This can be something small, such buying a book, eating something you love, watching your favorite program on TV, going to a movie, or just having a stroll on the beach.
9) Each day do at least one act to make others happy.
This can be a kind word, helping your colleagues, stopping your car at the crossroad to let people cross, giving your seat in a bus to someone else, or giving a small present to someone you love. The possibilities are infinite.
When you make someone happy, you become happy.
10) Always expect happiness.
Develop the habit of expecting happiness. Cherish the idea that you deserve it and that it is within your reach.
11) Do not envy people who are happy.
Envy is a bad idea that keeps joy away. Try to rejoice with them and participate in their happiness.
12) Associate with happy people
Happiness is contagious, therefore, it would be a good idea to associate with happy people and seek their friendship.
13) Do not take things personally
Do your best to stay detached, when things do not proceed as intended and when someone criticizes you.
Detachment will help you stay calm and control your moods and reactions. Detachment is not indifference. It is the acceptance of the good and the bad and staying balanced. Detachment has much to do with inner peace, and inner peace is conductive to happiness.
14) Smile more often
Smiling has a great effect on how you feel. Smiling make people like you more, and this leads to more positive state of mind.
15) Learn to calm down your mind
When the mind is calm there is inner peace, and when there is inner peace, happiness arises from within you. The mind is in a constant state of restless thinking, like a stormy ocean on a windy day. When you calm down the waves of your mind, peace and happiness fill your life.