Sex in a Relationship – What it Means to a Woman


As a man, have you ever wondered what sex in a relationship means to a woman? Read this to understand a woman’s view on sex and everything about it.

An emotional connection, trust and friendship are absolutely essential for any meaningful and lasting relationship.

But what is the one thing that can make a loyal bond to any one person more than friendship?


Sex is an extremely important physical and emotional element of any romantic relationship.

How a person understands and relates to sex varies from person to person.

Everyone has their own experience and value of sex, and what it represents to them in a relationship.

Thus, sex has the ability to greatly impact a couple’s relationship based on the meanings that are placed on sex.

While these meanings definitely vary from person to person, and couple to couple, there are a few common things that sex represents for a woman in a relationship.

Based on a few personal experiences, and of course, lots of consultation with friends, I can say that sex means *at least a few of* the following things for a woman in a relationship.

What sex can mean for a woman in a relationship?

Some of the most common meanings that sex can signify for a woman in a relationship are love, attraction and passion. But it can also mean a deep trust and connection, fun and pleasure.

Sex shows a woman that you love her

When my boyfriend takes his time working his way around every nook that makes me shiver, kisses all my favorite spots, and makes sure I am fully satisfied, there is no better way of knowing that I am absolutely loved and cared for.

Sex shows a woman you are attracted to her

When you’re having regular sex in a relationship, it shows a woman you are attracted to her, and that you think she is sexy, and desirable.

In one past relationship, my ex was a dreamy Italian with the dark and handsome thing going for him, and the result was me wanting to jump his bones a lot.

But we rarely had sex. Even from the beginning, whereas I was extremely sexual, he was timid and wasn’t bothered if it only happened a few times a month.

Most of the time, a partner’s choice not to have sex stems from deeper-rooted issues. But it doesn’t matter, if you aren’t having sex with your lady, she is most likely feeling like the most unattractive woman alive.

So, when I tell you there is nothing that makes a woman doubt herself (body wise) more than being sexually rejected by a partner, I’m not kidding.

Sex is passion

On the other hand, when my current boyfriend comes home from work and cannot keep his hands or mouth off me, and makes it extremely clear he just wants to be inside me as soon as possible, I feel like the sexiest person alive.

Sex is passion, and it makes a woman feel loved and beautiful if you want her as much as she wants you in your relationship.

Sex is a trusted connection between two people

The difference between a one-night-stand and sex in a relationship is that you share a deep connection with your partner, something you don’t usually find after a heavy night of drinking.

And because of such a connection, sex is something that must be shared between both partners, not taken from either one.

Let me explain myself a little further. During my relationship with my first love, who I was mad for at the time and felt an extremely real bond with, we ran into a problem.

We both wanted to have sex – a lot – and that was fine with me until about two years into our relationship when I started having some mildly serious health problems. It wasn’t an STI but it still caused major pain during sex, and left me feeling no pleasure at all.

Yet, while I clearly communicated this to my boyfriend, we continued to have sex. It wasn’t like he was forcibly making me have sex but it still didn’t feel right. I was not connected to the sex, or him.

To me, it felt like he was taking sex, and that it wasn’t something we were sharing with each other any longer. I didn’t feel our bond while we were having sex.

I never quite got over his claim on taking sex from me, and we eventually went our separate ways.

The relationship left me with a very real meaning of sex in a relationship – it must be part of a trusted connection to another person.

Sex is fun and pleasure

Of course, sex means fun and pleasure for women in a relationship.

Sex is not a chore to women. The age-old myth that women don’t like sex as much as men is complete rubbish.

Many women are extremely sexual beings that love to have fun and feel the immense gratification that comes along with amazing sex.

Fun can mean a boatload of different things, and to each their own. But fun is definitely trying sex in all different positions, places, and perhaps with different personas. Whatever your lady’s preference may be, she definitely wants to have fun with sex!

Pleasure is self-explanatory really. Sex for women in a relationship means pleasure. That can range from full out multiple O’s or just an awesome romp that leaves a lady feeling good and giddy.

You should find out what exactly creates the most enjoyable and pleasing sex for your lady, and make it happen, over and over!

Overall, sex is many things

So, sex does not mean just one thing to a woman in a relationship. It can mean many things, maybe even more than I have mentioned here.

But from my own experience and from chats with many women, sex comes down to represent three main things – love, a connection, and pleasure!

Sex does mean different things to different people but these values are the most basic, and what most women find sex to mean in a relationship.

Have sex that is loving, and passionate. Show your partner you are completely obsessed with their body and can barely resist them. Share sex through a trusted connection with your partner, and of course, focus on satisfying your partner and yourself. Enjoy!


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