While getting into a groove can be a good thing, when it comes to your sex life, it’s best to aim for variety.
Spicing up your sex life can improve your relationship with your partner and result in a host of health benefits.
Making things more interesting in the bedroom doesn’t have to be complicated. Try these simple tips to create more heat between the sheets.
Try something new
Over time, most couples adopt a fairly predictable sexual script. To change things up, try something new. Start with something simple like a different position or adding a blind fold to shift your sensory experience. You could also introduce sex toys, role play, dress up, or change the scenery.
Make out like teenagers
At the beginning of a relationship, couples enjoy deep, sexy kissing, and they touch each other in arousing ways. But as a relationship matures, that lovey-dovey behavior can take a backseat to chores and mundane activities. Channel your inner teenager and kiss, hug, and snuggle your partner like you did when you first met. Doing so will help keep your marriage sexually alive.
Schedule romantic activities
Taking time out to spend with your partner is one of the most loving things you can do for each other. I suggest that couples get a copy of the book 8 Erotic Nights, which offers eight sensual activities that will show you and your partner how to please each other. Take turns picking out an activity and you’ll connect more passionately with your partner.
Share your fantasies
Fantasies are underutilized by couples. It’s important to use your imagination and share your most erotic desires with your partner. If you’re feeling shy, set the mood by lighting some candles, turning off electronics, and playing romantic music. Once you’re both feeling relaxed and intimate, open up to your significant other.
Watch a sexy DVD
I recommend couples watch and discuss The Better Sex Video Series, which is a compilation of sex education pieces,” says Dr. Libby. “It shows real life couples exploring sexual positions and techniques and talking about what they enjoy.” You’ll learn Kama Sutra positions, sexual anatomy (including the elusive G-spot), erotic massage, and the four fundamentals of foreplay (oral sex, erotic talk, sensual touch, and kissing).
See a sex therapist
Still feeling stuck in a rut? Consider seeing a certified sex therapist. Therapy is not necessarily reserved for problems. It can be about education, growth, and sexual development